David Gillespie - Dinner invite

08 Apr 2013 7:06 PM

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Hi

I've been invited to my husband work colleagues home for dinner this weekend. I haven't met the couple before so I don't feel comfortable telling them beforehand that I don't eat sugar, as I don't want to come across as being difficult. However, I also don't want to turn up on the night and not eat all of the meal they prepared for us, as they may think that I don't like it or I'm being rude. What makes it worse, is that they are from Italian and Greek background which means lots of yummy temping food!

I suggested to my husband that maybe he could say something to his colleague before hand, but he thinks I'm being silly and he doesn't want to.

This is the first time that I have been placed in this position since I stopped eating sugar 6 weeks ago. I need some advise on how to approach this situation? HELP ME!

Alex

09 Apr 2013 12:41 AM

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I believe it is not too much to ask- just mention that you are "fructose intolerant". You know that if you had diabetes/anaphylaxis you would have to tell them & wouldn't be embarrassed to. people know that other people have food allergies/intolerances these days (peanuts, seafood, gluten, coeliac, dairy & egg for example) & would rather know than be embarrassed by you not being able to eat their food on the night. As your husband feels to embarrassed to mention it on your behalf & probably would get the message wrong anyway-contact the person who is catering yourself-come to some arrangement-offer to provide an alternative for yourself if it cant be managed-no problem

09 Apr 2013 1:21 AM

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I'm sorry to say..but I think I agree with your husband.
Just play it by ear and I'm sure you'll manage.
If it helps you could perhaps take a cheese/fruit/nut platter along incase the dessert is too over the top and that way you can just mention at dessert time that you don't eat sugar and have some fruit instead.
I've been sugar free for 3 months by choice not because I'm allergic and on the 2 occasions I've had a small slice of dessert it hasn't really affected my overall resolve. If its too rich just have a couple of bites.
You mustn't let a fructose free diet spoil a special occasion.

Jacki

09 Apr 2013 2:17 AM

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I'm not too worried about dessert, as I can generally work around it. What I'm more worried about are the hidden sugars in the meal itself and becoming addicted and needing to start withdrawal from scratch.

09 Apr 2013 6:58 PM

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I should give my husband more credit! I think that secretly he also doesn't want to eat sugar but doesn't want to admit it in public ;)

On his on accord, my husband mentioned to his colleague yesterday that I was fructose intolorant. It wasn't a big deal after all! One of his family members is also fructose intolorant, so they are use to cooking without sugar. This was much easier than I orginally thought!

Thanks for all your help.

Alex

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